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Divorce Preparation To-Do List

By Heather Higgins
Associate Attorney

Preparing for a divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions are running high and there are countless details to consider. You might be unsure about where to start or what steps will make the process smoother. Taking the time to organize yourself early on can go a long way in making the situation more manageable. Having a plan in place can help you feel more in control and provide some clarity during a time of uncertainty.

Collect and Organize Important Documents

One of the first steps in preparing for a divorce is gathering important documents. These will be needed to assess your financial situation and ensure everything is accounted for during the divorce process. Keeping them organized will help you stay on top of things.

Here are some key documents to collect:

  • Tax returns (for the last three years)
  • Pay stubs or proof of income
  • Bank account statements (checking, savings, and joint accounts)
  • Retirement and investment account statements
  • Property deeds and mortgage documents
  • Credit card and loan statements
  • Insurance policies (health, life, home, etc.)

Be sure to organize these documents in a secure, easy-to-access format, such as a digital folder or a physical binder. Having everything ready ahead of time will save you from unnecessary stress later on. It’s also a good idea to make copies of these documents and keep them in a safe place.

Assess Your Financial Situation

Understanding your financial situation is a key part of preparing for divorce. Start by taking a close look at your current income, expenses, assets, and debts. Creating a budget that reflects your anticipated post-divorce expenses will give you a clearer picture of what to expect financially.

Here’s what you should review:

  • Bank and investment accounts: Make a list of all personal and joint accounts, including savings, checking, and retirement accounts.
  • Income: Gather recent pay stubs or income statements for you and your spouse.
  • Debts: Take note of all shared and individual debts, including mortgages, credit cards, and loans.
  • Credit report: Check your credit report to identify any outstanding debts and ensure there are no surprises.

By fully understanding your financial picture now, you can better prepare for the negotiations ahead and protect your financial future.

Create a Temporary Parenting Plan

If you have children, creating a temporary parenting plan is an important step in maintaining stability during the divorce process. Start by discussing custody arrangements with your spouse, including how much time the children will spend with each parent and who will handle day-to-day responsibilities. Consider the school schedule, extracurricular activities, and any healthcare decisions that need to be addressed. Establishing a routine can provide your children with a sense of consistency and help reduce the emotional strain during this period of transition for your family.

Evaluate Your Living Situation

As you prepare for divorce, it’s important to think about your current and future living arrangements. Consider whether staying in the marital home is the best option for you or if moving out makes more sense. Factors like financial stability, proximity to your children’s school, and emotional comfort should all play a role in your decision. If you’re planning to move, start researching housing options early and think about how this change will impact your budget. Evaluating your living situation ahead of time can help you make informed decisions that support your well-being and financial security.

Consult with a Divorce Attorney

It’s important to consult with a divorce attorney early in the process to ensure you fully understand your rights and options. An experienced family law attorney can guide you through the legal aspects of divorce, helping you make informed decisions that protect your interests. They will explain what to expect at each step and provide personalized advice based on your specific situation. Having legal support also ensures you’re aware of all necessary paperwork and deadlines, helping to avoid costly mistakes. 

Contact Our Experienced Hickory Divorce Attorneys

Divorce can be a challenging experience, but having a clear plan can make it more manageable. By staying organized and addressing each step carefully, you can move through the process with more confidence. At Patrick, Harper & Dixon, we can guide you, ensuring your rights are protected and your concerns are addressed. If you’re ready to take the next step or have any questions about your divorce, contact us today to schedule a consultation.

About the Author
Heather Higgins is an associate attorney with the Firm practicing in the areas of civil litigation, family law, and criminal law. Heather is a Hickory native, having graduated from St. Stephens High School in 2009 where she was a member of the Indians swim team and symphonic band. After high school, she attended Campbell University in Buies Creek, NC to pursue her four-year degree. At Campbell, Heather was involved in the Student Government Association, as well as Captain of the Mock Trial team for three years.